Archive | May, 2013

Delighting Detroit Parents with an Edgy New School

“I didn’t know this was here!  I never knew this Detroit existed!” 19-year-old Desmond Burkett was both shocked and delighted – with a tinge of regret as he said that. Desmond is thoughtful and outgoing but dropped out of school in 10th grade defeated and angry over the crumbling condition of his Detroit school and […]

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Your Sensuality & Sexuality: Exploring Back Door Love

NOTE: This article contains explicit and graphic material that may make some people uncomfortable. Dear Devi, I’ve always fantasized about anal sex. My boyfriend is interested, but we both feel nervous. What’s the deal with anal? Why is it both enticing and scary? And how do we ease into it so that we can both […]

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A Tailor-Made Mother for a Child with a Disability

When I was young, other kids occasionally made fun of me for being short or walking differently or using a wheelchair. My mom helped me emotionally and intellectually understand a world that could be unfair and discriminatory. She always took the time to talk to me about how this made me feel, letting me cry, […]

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Stop Corrupting Mothers Day!

  Traditional Mother’s Day has been a stick in my craw since 2004 when I discovered the true roots of the holiday. Mother’s Day began as a women’s peace movement, not as the biggest Hallmark card day of the year! Not that I don’t think mothers deserve a special day of adulation. It’s just that […]

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My Young Mother’s Secret Miracle (Me!)

My grandmother would always tell my mother, Bridget, “If you ever have a baby, I’ll kill you!” That came from a woman who was strict about the rules of her home and the expectations of our current society’s vision of what a “young lady”should be. These values rang true in everything my mother did. She […]

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How to be a Loving Daughter to Hard to Love People

My parents refused to let me be at the hospital when my mother was scheduled to have extensive surgery on her spine. “You’re busy,” my mother said. “I don’t need you there,” my dad told me, almost annoyed that I would even ask. Though I’m in my forties, they see me as just a kid, […]

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The Foot-in-Your-Mouth Approach to Adoption

My mother was silent all the way through dinner. I was out with her, my stepfather and sister when I broke the news – right in the middle of the restaurant. “Joe and I have decided to adopt,” I said matter of factly. It was 2008 and Joe and I had been married for three […]

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Your Sensuality & Sexuality: About That Vibrator

NOTE: This article contains explicit and graphic material that may make some people uncomfortable.   Dear Devi, Do vibrators make a woman less sensitive to touch? I’m able to orgasm really easily when I use my vibrator by myself, but I can’t have an orgasm with my partner?  Does this mean that I’m addicted to […]

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Shouldn’t We Respect Pregnant Women & Their Fragile State?

Society has a problem. A major problem. Anytime news outlets and pop culture fans deem it okay to talk about pregnant women and their children in a negative way, there’s a definite issue. While perusing the internet I stumbled upon this article on the In the article the author calls out Kim Kardashian for […]

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My Mother’s Warning: “You know if you put it on, you can’t take it off”

I remember sitting on my parents’ bed as a kid and trying to wrap one of my mom’s headscarves around my head. Standing on the bed, looking into the mirror that sat atop their dresser, I saw myself take the square piece of cloth and trying miserably to tie it in a knot like I […]

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