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How to Be on the Ground Floor of Taking a Stand (Even When it Sucks)

I winced – even though I saw the question coming. I recently got a text from a colleague in New York asking if we could have a phone call because she had a quick question about our upcoming work retreat for our organization. I knew that she’d been searching for a place to have the […]

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Secrets of Who’s Who Under Those Head Coverings

As a Muslim woman I choose to wear a headscarf, known as the hijab, because it symbolizes the core beliefs and ethics of Islam that I hold close to my heart. Having said that, I’ve always known that the headscarf conceals identifying characteristics that allow people to recognize those of us who decide to wear the […]

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What to do When the Monster Comes Roaring Out

Let me start with admitting that I recently lost my mind on a parking lot attendant … you know, the gatekeeper at a parking garage. It’s not a proud moment by any means, especially since the guy was just doing his job. In my hurry to get out of the house that morning, I had […]

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Your Sensuality & Sexuality: Asking for MORE in Your Sexual Relationship

DEAR DEVI, My partner and I have been together for more than 10 years. Although I like our sex and the way he touches me, there are times when I desire a little something different. I’m wondering if you have any suggestions for how to communicate this to him – without making him feel inadequate, […]

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How to be Poised and Smiling While Getting Creamed on Jeopardy!

Yep, that’s me on the set of Jeopardy! And I was getting beaten. Creamed actually. If you’re a Jeopardy! fan, let me tell you it was the buzzer that tormented me. I just couldn’t get the hang of it. It’s not simply a matter of being the first to answer. You can’t be too quick […]

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Your Sensuality & Sexuality: When & Why the “Love Drug” Runs Out

DEAR DEVI, When my partner and I first got together, we could hardly keep our hands off of each other, and we had sex almost everyday, sometimes several times in one day! We’ve only been together for about a year, and now we have sex maybe once a week – and sometimes it’s longer than […]

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The Zen of Toiling in Obscurity and Exploding Into Stardom

The story of the enigmatic Detroiter who came to intrigue the nation won the Oscar for best documentary in the 2013 Academy Awards ceremony. “Rodriguez isn’t here tonight, because he didn’t want to take any of the credit himself and that just about says everything about that man and his story that you’d want to […]

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The Push-Pull of Those Prickly, Yucky, Sucky Family Moments

I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have the best relationship with my step-monster. Um, I mean step-mother. We are very different women who have been sharing a singular important man in our lives for over 15 years now. I hate living the stereotypical step-daughter/step-mother dynamic. But for us it’s been mostly drama, […]

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Forget Big Boxes! Five (pretty sweet) Reasons for Keeping Your Detroit Dollars Local

A remarkable number of shops are opening in Detroit and many others have stayed the course the past few years. Since moving here four years ago, I’ve made it my personal mission to support these stores and to make every possible purchase I can in the city. Is that always easy?  No, but I have […]

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Detroit – Getting Rid of that Nagging Doubt Once and for All

Why would you go there? The question nagged me as I prepared for the University of Michigan’s “Semester in Detroit Program” – where 25 of us would travel to Detroit, immersing ourselves in hands-on urban studies classes and community internships over the summer. And ever since I completed my two-month term in the city, I’m […]

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