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What Trayvon Martin Means to Me & Should Mean to You, with LOVE from Detroit

One of Shetroit’s youngest bloggers, Shirley Bolden, wrote about Trayvon Martin at the time of his death last year. Now, following the George Zimmerman trial and verdict, her invitation rings with even stronger resolve … Initially, I labored over writing something about the Trayvon Martin tragedy. I was going to use cliches to explain what […]

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Warning: Parental Tantrum Ahead

The other day, my daughter was upset that my son wouldn’t hug her. Before that, my son was angry that he couldn’t ride his bike. A tantrum usually results with one or the other on the floor crying. They’re both well beyond the stage where this is age appropriate, but that’s a topic for another post. […]

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When the Action Hero Wants to Save the World and the Doll Wants to Party

My 5-year-old was spinning his Spiderman figurine in the air and excitedly declared, “Spiderman is getting ready to help in an emergency!” Not to be outdone, my 8-year-old-daughter gripping Ariel, her princess doll, chimed in, “Ariel is getting ready for a party!” Ok, let’s review. The action hero is surging forth to do good and […]

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Delighting Detroit Parents with an Edgy New School

“I didn’t know this was here!  I never knew this Detroit existed!” 19-year-old Desmond Burkett was both shocked and delighted – with a tinge of regret as he said that. Desmond is thoughtful and outgoing but dropped out of school in 10th grade defeated and angry over the crumbling condition of his Detroit school and […]

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Your Sensuality & Sexuality: Exploring Back Door Love

NOTE: This article contains explicit and graphic material that may make some people uncomfortable. Dear Devi, I’ve always fantasized about anal sex. My boyfriend is interested, but we both feel nervous. What’s the deal with anal? Why is it both enticing and scary? And how do we ease into it so that we can both […]

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A Tailor-Made Mother for a Child with a Disability

When I was young, other kids occasionally made fun of me for being short or walking differently or using a wheelchair. My mom helped me emotionally and intellectually understand a world that could be unfair and discriminatory. She always took the time to talk to me about how this made me feel, letting me cry, […]

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My Young Mother’s Secret Miracle (Me!)

My grandmother would always tell my mother, Bridget, “If you ever have a baby, I’ll kill you!” That came from a woman who was strict about the rules of her home and the expectations of our current society’s vision of what a “young lady”should be. These values rang true in everything my mother did. She […]

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How to be a Loving Daughter to Hard to Love People

My parents refused to let me be at the hospital when my mother was scheduled to have extensive surgery on her spine. “You’re busy,” my mother said. “I don’t need you there,” my dad told me, almost annoyed that I would even ask. Though I’m in my forties, they see me as just a kid, […]

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The Foot-in-Your-Mouth Approach to Adoption

My mother was silent all the way through dinner. I was out with her, my stepfather and sister when I broke the news – right in the middle of the restaurant. “Joe and I have decided to adopt,” I said matter of factly. It was 2008 and Joe and I had been married for three […]

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Your Sensuality & Sexuality: About That Vibrator

NOTE: This article contains explicit and graphic material that may make some people uncomfortable.   Dear Devi, Do vibrators make a woman less sensitive to touch? I’m able to orgasm really easily when I use my vibrator by myself, but I can’t have an orgasm with my partner?  Does this mean that I’m addicted to […]

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