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How to Say Goodbye to Detroit – Maybe

Detroiter Shirley Bolden, at 23 and the youngest of Shetroit’s Blog Team, is taking a break and saying goodbye to her hometown for, well … she’ll explain.   Dear Detroit, I am not sure how to say this because you have been nothing but great to me. You modeled before me what it meant to […]

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“That’s a Very Beautiful Baby,” the Homeless Man Said

“That’s a very beautiful baby,” the homeless man who sits on a ledge at a corner near my residence uttered as we walked by. I see him on a regular basis sometimes passing him on my way and seeing him again in that same spot hours later when I return. On this especially warm day, […]

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Survivors of Sexual Assault: Learn to Heal

NOTE: Take Back the Night was a fabulous, meaningful event on April 13, 2012. But not to worry if you missed it! Want to pursue healing? Well, then, heck, contact Detroit’s Sexual Assault Services for Holistic Healing and Awareness (SASHA) But also read Kalimah’s important story below … I am a survivor of rape during […]

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Finding My Way Back To You

I am currently reading Kwasi Akwamu’s controversial book, Stop Snitching: Does It Really Reduce Crime in the Black Community? Beyond challenging the negative impact of informing on our communities, Akwamu looks at the state of black men in America. The beginning of one of the chapters in bold capital letters made me pause, “SOME OF […]

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Loving Detroit, Regardless

When I’m not working my 9 to 5 job, I’m the Editor-In-Chief of, a lifestyle website dedicated to plus size women. As the editor, I’ve been given the opportunity to attend and participate in a number of fashion shows, conferences and panel discussions throughout the country. The women who I spend my days with […]

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“Relax girl, damn…I aint’ tryna steal your purse”

I was walking up Oakman Boulevard on Detroit’s west side. The sun was shining and I was nearing the Focus Hope building. I heard steps behind me, I glanced over my shoulder and saw a brown face. I clinched my fingers around the strap of my purse and hurried my steps. Beads of sweat ran […]

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Friend or Foe for Motown Muslim?

“Hey! Where you going?” calls the janitor of an inner city public school to me as I jiggle the handle on a locked door in the empty hallway. “Ahh, hello there,” I reply self-consciously. Actually, no matter how many times this happens to me, it’s really embarrassing every time.   “Maybe you could help me…” I […]

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The Messy, Prickly Process of ‘Detroit Works’

When I moved to Detroit in 1984, folks gave me this welcome pitch: “This city has nowhere to go but up!” Not so. The abyss seems to have grown deeper as the city totters on the edge of bankruptcy. When will the city’s 700,000 die-hard residents get a little dose of hope? That’s what the […]

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How to Bring the Whole You to Work

I am writing this blog to share with you my experiences as a mother, eco-warrior, local activist and someone who is learning to live and lead from my “woman-ness” – or divine feminine. I think it is one of the strongest things I have going! To me, leading from the divine feminine means living your […]

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What Child Abuse Looks Like in the Black Community

Since the release of our anthology, My Blue Suede Shoes, many people have asked me why I wanted to write a story about domestic violence. When a lot of people think about domestic violence, they think about male-female partners sparring and fighting with each other, a la Chris Brown and Rihanna. But that is really […]

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