Your Sensuality & Sexuality: Unveiling the Mystique of the G-Spot

NOTE: This article contains explicit and graphic material that may make some people uncomfortable.


I keep hearing people talk about “The G-Spot” in women.

I can’t seem to find mine, and have no idea what I’m even looking for.

Is there such a thing as a G-spot, and does every woman have one?


G-spot mystiqueAhhh… the elusive G-spot. The source of much confusion and disappointment for women and men around the world.

I was clueless about what and where my G-spot was for most of my life. It sounded like this amazing body part that some women were lucky enough to be born with, and some women (like myself at that time) were simply destined to live without it.

Luckily I was completely and totally wrong.

Yes Virginia, every woman has a G-spot.
It’s an actual part of your physical anatomy, and unless your genitalia departs from the norm, you are destine to have one.


You will “find” your G-spot about 1.5-to-2 inches inside your vagina, on the anterior (front) wall.Diagram of G-spot


The flesh will feel slightly textured, or rough like corduroy or a cat’s tongue. If you make a “hook” with your finger, in a ‘come here’ motion and press up and into the body with slight pressure, you will feel the back end of the G-spot and maybe even some pleasurable “pressure” sensations.


The G-spot includes the entire area from the tip of where your finger is pressing, all the way to the vaginal opening.

Other than its location, the other important thing to understand about your G-spot is the way it works.

Margo Anand's book addresses the trauma that is often stored in genital tissue

Margo Anand’s book addresses the trauma that is often stored in genital tissue

If you base your personal experience of your G-spot on some of the stories you’ve heard, you probably expect that the moment you touch it, you’ll be overwhelmed with the most explosive orgasms of your life and instantaneously reduced to a puddle of pleasure.

It doesn’t quite work that way. Your G-spot is made up of spongy erectile tissue, which will literally engorge and become erect, kind of like a penis does, but on the inside. In fact – women have as much erectile tissue internally as a man does externally, but it can take anywhere from 20-45 minutes for that tissue to become fully engorged and for our bodies to become fully aroused.

So your G-spot isn’t necessarily going to feel amazing the moment that you touch it. It needs to go through a process of arousal, and this arousal usually comes from some sort of direct stimulation, be it a finger or sex toy or, depending on the angle, a penis.

Liquid Love: The G-Spot Explosion (DVD), explores cultural conditioning in how we view our bodies

Liquid Love: The G-Spot Explosion (DVD) explores cultural conditioning in how we view our bodies

The other thing to be aware of is that women store emotional, sexual, psychological “trauma” or “stress” in our sexual organs, specifically the G-spot area. So many women may feel numb, irritated, or even pain when that area is stimulated.

If this is your experience, please understand that this is completely normal and part of a healing process. If you feel concerned or would like some support during this process, I suggest contacting a reputable Tantra or sex coach, or somatic sexual healer.

Given the lack of accurate sex education in our culture, it’s no surprise that most women and men are confused about their sexual anatomy and sexual pleasure responses.

I celebrate your courage in seeking to understand more about your body and beginning the process of reclaiming your birthright to pleasure.



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About Devi

Devi Ward is a pioneer in the field of women's sensual empowerment and focuses on helping women explore their sexual healing and sensual awakening. As a Black woman living in Detroit, Devi spent much of her early life feeling confused and disempowered. She now uses her years of healing and education to help women discover their own journeys of transcending fear and shame around the vital issue of how we see ourselves as sensual and sexual beings. Devi's recently released book is “Shake Your Soul-Song! A Woman’s Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure.” Contact her through

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